Sunday, October 23, 2005

am looking at some article on The science of a happy marriage...

by nature, men and women aren't made for each other.
how do we actually get together and fall in love and all that?

stage 1:
一见钟情
falling in love...
when we our chemical signal reacts with our sense..
the times when we smell at each other and when we look at each other... we become one..
this may be the honey moon period~

stage 2: Disillution
after a few mths.. hormones and brain changes... we found out that each other is flawed.. we feel anger and irritation as well as fear to each other.. we might be having second thoughts that is he or she the right one? we wont understand wad is each of us thinking...
i personally think that alot of ppl doent goes thru this stage... seen alot of my friend do.. they started to feel less and less for each other.. and so on...

stage 3: Power struggle
an invisible chemical letdown, when they wanted each other to be the ones they first known...

i started to get sian` and decided not to write le... whahaha...

anyway... somethings.. are actually so unpredictable... like just now, although egg egg spend his whole day at my hse but still i feel so irritated... i think he felt too.. when i got this major headache... and i accidentally knocked his chin when he tried to carry me...
den we went out for a walk.. and we decided to have a ride on the bicycle.. and half way thru.. i was sitting on the metal./. PAIN!! and we went back to get pillow... and cycle even further~~ wooohooo~~~ so fun` so romantic..

conclusion..
being together, we need to find time and space for each other... as well as being attentive to emotional needs because this is the hardest part.. often girls would think tat her bf would know everything tat she thinks.. or so.. she would try to hint it thru blog or thru some language for her bf to get the hint.. but unfortunately being guys, they are dumb... so unless u tell them clearly~ they wun know.. this is one of the dumb mistakes i always make.. but i still make.. bbecause i hope that one day, he will be clever enuff to switch on the com to look for answer or think abt the hints i dropped, instead of cursing me not giving him the answer. :p
lastly, finding activities for each other.. because our character may be diff, our lifestyle and all are diff... when we are together for too long, we may be so bored with each other and drifted apart..

boo!

lastly..
EGG EGG~ i love u!! lalala~